How To Get Dates On Tinder
For the sake of this article, let’s just run with an example of getting drinks for a first date. This is because it’s probably the most common and the following steps can easily be replicated for other dates.
There are a couple of components, I believe, that you can follow to help yourself out. This might not be for everyone, but if you really do have a tough time getting dates on Tinder, let’s see what we can do.
First Step To Planning Dates On Tinder: Get Idea Of Free Time
The first thing to help your chances of actually going on this Tinder date with your match is to find out how their schedule is looking in the near future.
You possibly could have just matched with someone who is looking for a brief 5-minute distraction before going back to studying for the most important exam of her life. If you jumped right in and asked her to hang out tomorrow, and she had an exam that day, you have already set yourself off on the wrong foot. But, if you got a gauge, found out when she was going to have her final exam, then you could plan something for a day you know she will most likely be free. Makes sense right?
If you ask how their week is looking, and they respond saying they don’t have any plans, then this is a good indication that your match shouldn’t have anything getting in the way of you asking them out.
Second Step To Planning Dates On Tinder: Get A Gauge
It could be as simple as asking:
“hey, what are you getting up to tomorrow night/ tonight?”
The fact that you are asking this after you have already planted the seed of catching up will usually mean she knows what’s coming. What I mean by that is she is probably expecting you to ask her out. So, she wouldn’t respond saying she is doing absolutely nothing if she didn’t want to see you. If she is saying she has no plans at all, then the time is right. If she does have plans, please don’t be turned off and think your chances are done. She might just actually be busy.
You only have a select number of times to ask her out and you don’t want to be the guy asking every single time you two speak. You are being more intuitive by picking up on the fact that she might be busy, which she will appreciate.
Like we spoke in the previous article about knowing when the time is right, look out for any responses that might point towards her wanting to see you.
I personally suggest to my clients to ask this at least half a day prior to the proposed time, rather than making it seem like a last minute attempt at seeing them.
Third Step To Planning Dates On Tinder: Telling Not Asking
Let’s look at option A & B:
- Would you like to get a drink?
- We should go get a drink!
Let’s not over think this too much, but just that little shift in language from A to B could be the last thing to help you get over the line.
Now I know what some of you might be thinking: 1. It’s a little forceful just outright saying what she should do, and 2. You aren’t exactly giving her a chance to say yes by not actually asking a question. Don’t worry, I’m getting to that.
Fourth Step To Planning Dates On Tinder: Make An Excuse
For example, let’s say once you ask what her plans are, your match responds with:
Fifth Step To Planning Dates On Tinder: Call To Action
What I mean by this, is following up our date request, with a question. For example: “What do you think?”
This allows you to show that you are in fact seriously asking her out on a date, and not making another throwaway statement about hanging out.
If she’s into you and not busy, you should get a solid yes. Good job dude.
When she says yes, and are thinking you want to try something other than going for drinks, check out this article I’ve written on some of the best ideas on where to go for your first Tinder date.