What Is Tinder Reply Anxiety
Your message is now out there in the Tinder stratosphere. You’re on the edge of your seat with anticipation wondering what your match will say. Then you slump back into your chair because the minutes are passing, and passing and passing. But that overwhelming anxiety just won’t go away and you keep checking your phone for that ‘new Tinder message’ notification.
Be honest, have you ever been in this scenario or something similar? Chances are, especially if you are reading this, then yes you have. But rest assured my friend, you’re not the only one. It happens way more than you would think.
According to a recent American Psychological Association study, one-fifth of Americans associated their mobile device with stress. And first hand, I can tell you that a bunch of the people I help out face this feeling on a daily basis. So what is the cause, and more importantly, how the hell can we get rid of it?
Reasons Why We Feel Text Reply Anxiety
Let me just add, if you are ever asking yourself whether or not you should send that follow up message to your match just to be sure she has seen your message, don’t. As you will find out soon, there are a number of reasons why she might not have written back yet, don’t ruin your chances by seeming needy. Remember, she might genuinely just be busy. Let’s run through some of the reasons you are feeling Tinder reply anxiety.
This becomes even more prevalent with someone you don’t actually know yet, as they might not have a very good feel for who you are yet.
Micromanagement of other people
How to Overcome Reply Anxiety
For example, if you remove your ego from the situation then you might be able to actually find excitement in the situation, rather than anxiety. Think about the feeling of when you were a kid waiting for Christmas. Were you anxiously checking the clock every few minutes and freaking out that it hadn’t arrived yet? Chances are, no. That exciting feeling is how waiting should be! Try to add a little of that exciting flavor to waiting for your Tinder replies.
As I’ve alluded to a couple of times, lots of people feel this way in this technologically driven world. So remember, you’re not alone. “We’re all looking for connection and validation, and you can get that in a second with a text message,” Kitley says. Use this to reassure yourself that you’re not losing it, it happens to the best of us!
Experts suggest that perhaps using your phone, in general, a lot less throughout the day can help reduce this anxiety in the long term. For a short-term solution, I suggest getting active, or even better, starting an activity that is meaningful to you. You don’t want a quick distraction before going straight back to your phone, so spending an hour or two undertaking an activity that you’re passionate about can help really take your mind off the lack of a reply. Whether that’s a book you love, a hobby or working on a project, if you can ‘lose yourself’ for a while without checking your phone, you are closer to overcoming that terrible anxious feeling.
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