The Tinder bio, or as it has been rebranded, “About Me”, is one the easiest things to get wrong on Tinder.
I know. It’s called “About Me” – so quite naturally you describe yourself accurately as a college student, an animal lover, a dreamer, runner. But that’s just not how Tinder works.
What’s happening through the screen? You’ve sent your match right to sleep. How can she swipe right if she’s been bored unconscious?
No – your Tinder bio should NOT be “About You” in the traditional sense.
It SHOULD be creative, hilarious, and attention-grabbing.
Read on for the dos and don’ts on Tinder. We’ll also find out the best way to write a good Tinder bio and guarantee yourself some right swipes.
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Should I Have A Tinder Bio?
Before we get into the do’s and don’ts, I feel that it’s definitely necessary to let you know that YOU NEED A BIO!
Are you seriously still asking the question?
You’re asking, should I have a Tinder bio? YES. Your Tinder bio is the best way to stand out from other boring profiles on Tinder and get the right swipe from like-minded people.
A good Tinder bio won’t just get you more matches, it will lead to better conversations on Tinder and even more first dates.
Related: 16 ACTUALLY Funny Tinder Bios For Guys In 2023
There are so many reasons why you need a bio. I’m not going to explain all of them, but instead will back up my claims with data.
A recent study that took place built 3 fake male profiles, two with a bio and one without. Then they collected matches over a 4-hour period.
The researchers then compared the number of matches the profiles received (they liked everyone). Here were the average results from the 3 profiles:
So yes, a simple bio can help you receive way more matches. With that being said, there are a lot of things you can do in your bio to attract even more matches.
On the flip side of the coin, there are also many things that can be major red flags and send the ladies running. Let’s take a look at them all so you can build the perfect Tinder bio.
What Should You Put In A Tinder Bio?
True, your Tinder photos should do most of the talking. But a great Tinder bio is the best way to make a good first impression beyond looking great.
So what should you put in a Tinder bio? Show a bit of personality and tailor it to the kind of match you’re interested in. If you need to include some factual information, always do it with a twist so you’re not listing boring details.
The Tinder bio is all about balance. It should be funny and creative, but toe the line between cheeky and sleazy. It shouldn’t be low effort, but don’t be going overboard.
If you’re here for a good time, not a long time, here’s a quick look at what you should put in a Tinder bio:
- A joke
- Plenty of originality
- Something attention-grabbing
- Pros and cons of dating you
- Reference a meme
- Hint at what you’re looking for on Tinder
- Finish with a hook or call to action
What Should I Avoid In Tinder Bios?
As much as a great Tinder bio can seal the deal, a bad one can lead to an instant left swipe. These are the Tinder bio mistakes to avoid:
- Don’t brag
- Don’t be sleazy
- Don’t be insecure
- Don’t be demanding
- Don’t be unoriginal
- Don’t go overboard
- Don’t be low effort
- Don’t add your social media
- Don’t be cynical
- Don’t play it too safe
- Don’t be boring
What NOT TO DO In Your Tinder Bio
Don’t Brag
The number one reason I hear that women will swipe right to attractive guys is when their profile screams that they are cocky douchebags. Ask yourself if you have any aspects of your profile that make it seem as if you’re bragging.
Having big achievements or aspirations is a great thing, but not when you let them define who you are. If you are an awesome football player, don’t make your bio about all the awards you’ve won.
If you own a business that’s smashing it, don’t advertise it to girls on Tinder. These are things that when your match discovers organically, she will appreciate a hell of a lot more anyway.
Don’t Be A Sleazebag
I’m not a prude, I understand some of you are just looking for some fun, and that’s fine. What I will tell you though, is sleaze or innuendos in your bio is a massive turn-off.
I have helped many guys who weren’t on Tinder just for some “fun”, and who had a sleazy line in their bio. They thought that it was funny and would spark women’s attention.
Whereas a lot of women would have purely thought they were a sleazebag, prowling Tinder for the hanky panky. These guys, did a lot better once they stopped being gross.
Don’t Be Insecure
Women are attracted to confidence, so don’t give off an insecure vibe in your Tinder bio.
And insecurity can manifest in lots of ways. Mentioning your height can come across as insecure, as can talking about bad experiences in dating or life.
And even bragging can come off as insecure if it’s a transparent attempt to disguise a defect.
Your Tinder bio should be cool, calm, and collected – never insecure.
Don’t Be Demanding
I come across so many people on Tinder that are demanding as hell. I want this, I want that. Who the hell are you?
If you only date women that share a certain quality, for one, that’s a little strange, and two, why wouldn’t you just swipe until you find these types?
Don’t scare off potential suitors by explaining what kinds of girls you usually date, or how you don’t date women under 5’5”. Grow up.
What sort of picture do you think your match will paint when you are being a negative Nancy in your bio? It makes you look like a jerk-off who thinks they are better than everyone.
Be open to who you are going to meet on Tinder, because one of those women that don’t meet your “demands” may end up being the love of your life.
Don’t Use The Wrong Spelling Or Grammar
We aren’t in grade 7 anymore. I assume you are over 18 years of age, which means you are a man. Act like it.
You certainly don’t have to be a wordsmith, but just ensure you take a couple of seconds to read what you have written before hitting the old send button.
Spellcheck your bio like your high school English teacher is going to read it – and you never know, she might.
Don’t Be Unoriginal
Right now, there is so much inspiration online for what to write in your Tinder bio. But for all the thousands of clever lines out there, I always see the same 20 or so floating around.
Talking about how you are just looking for someone to bring to family events so they stop thinking you’re weird, or the quotes and 5-star ratings from “random Tinder girl” are overused.
If you come across a witty bio or have come to me for some inspiration, rather than copying word for word, try to twist things in your own way. We want to try and stand out, not be the exact same as everyone else.
Don’t Go Overboard
I hate to gross you out, but I guarantee that at least one of your matches liked your profile, whilst sitting on the toilet.
Understanding the user activity of people on Tinder can help us decide how to create our profile. On Tinder, because of its ‘efficient’ nature, we have to get to the point and not write a damn essay.
Keep it simple!
Don’t Not Try Enough
Simple doesn’t mean easy. We’ve gone over the reason why you should definitely have a Tinder bio, but barely trying at all, is basically the same thing.
If your bio is something like: “I don’t know what to write in these things” or “ask and find out” then change it immediately.
It shows that you can’t put any effort into online dating. Why would your match care if it seems like you don’t? It gives potential matches absolutely nothing to go off and therefore makes it a lot less likely that you will make an actual connection.
Don’t Be A Social Media Legend
If they want it, they will ask. Get rid of any and all social media handles in your profile. You’re not on Tinder for followers, you’re here to meet women.
Don’t Be Cynical
What I mean by this, is basically dissing Tinder and the fact that you are using it. Imagine if you went to a speed dating event, and the first thing you said to all of your dates was: “I wish I wasn’t here, my friends signed me up…”
Do you think the date would just ignore that, move on and be excited to get to know you? Chances are… no.
Being open to opportunity and having a more “go with the flow” attitude is attractive. The people looking at your profile have made the conscious decision to download Tinder as well. So who cares?
Stop caring about what people will think of you, especially people that have made the exact same decision as you.
Don’t Play It Too Safe
Despite the risks of turning your Tinder bio into a smörgåsbord of red flags, it’s also easy to play it too safe.
Your Tinder bio needs to stand out from the crowd, so if you try to appeal to everyone you’re going to be left with a boring, old, boiled egg of a bio.
You need some cured salmon, some pickles, and rye bread in there. Sure, it won’t be to everyone’s tastes but you will grab the attention of the right potential matches.
So as long as you’re avoiding the major DON’Ts, feel free to spice it up. Add a risque joke or a surreal meme reference and don’t stress that it’ll fly over some people’s heads.
Don’t Be Boring
If you’re going to ignore everything else on this list, I beg you – listen to this one.
My Hook Her Heart students know that I have one hard rule for online dating and it’s to HAVE FUN. When you’re having fun on dating apps, your matches will sense that energy and have a better time too.
Having fun encourages you to put the effort in where it counts.
So whatever you do, don’t bore your potential matches with a dull-as-dishwater Tinder bio.
What TO DO in your Tinder bio
Do Be Funny
Why do girls want a guy that shows humor in their bio? Well, having a witty or funny section in your bio allows your match to see your fun side.
If it’s something she finds funny too, you now have a connection without even talking yet. Something funny in your bio is a good foot to get started on. Making your match laugh, feel good, and want to know more about you is a great way to initiate interest.
Do Be Creative
OK, so there are roughly 34 million men on Tinder, almost double the number of women. So, we need to do what we can, when we can, to stand out.
You don’t have to go overboard with creativity, but just showing that you have put in some effort will show that you do care, and therefore more women will too.
Do Capture Their Attention
Human beings generally have a short attention span. Basically, your Tinder profile is an advertisement for you.
Advertisements rely heavily on an eye-catching headline or first line, to convince the viewer to keep reading or absorb more of the ad.
This should be the same for Tinder! Your first line in your bio is the most important, and it needs to catch your match’s eye.
I had a client that had a great profile overall, but the one big change we made was taking out one of his social media usernames.
I’ve obviously explained already why you should take this out, but in this instance, it was also the very first line of his profile. As soon as we took that out, he noticed he got a lot more matches.
The first line in your bio should be the most important. Take your time with it, and trial and error!
Do Show You’re Not Just Here For “FUN”
As I’m sure you are aware by now, there are a lot of women on Tinder, who assume you are just on safari for getting some action. In recent studies, it is shown that the amount of women looking for one-night stands is just under half the amount of men.
This means in simple terms that there are almost double the number of men than women, who are just wanting “fun”. First-hand conversations with female Tinder users confirm this.
So, if you aren’t one of these people just looking for a one-night stand, pointing out something of that nature in your bio can do wonders. I certainly don’t mean blatantly coming right out and saying “Don’t worry ladies, I’m not just trying to get in your pants.”
Definitely not. What I suggest is pointing out things that could be more important to you, or whatever it is you are searching for on Tinder.
This could definitely help your chances of finding a like-minded match and preventing them from making any assumptions about you.
Do Finish With A Hook or a Call To Action
When someone’s reading your bio, you have a brief opportunity to get into their heads. And what do you want them to do? Swipe right of course.
So why not tell them to do exactly that? A call to action is a psychological tool that inspires your reader to do something – in this case, match with you.
There are plenty of ways to finish your Tinder bio with a call to action.
If you’ve expressed a controversial opinion, tell your potential match to “tell me I’m wrong”.
If you’ve talked about things you like, say “Swipe right if you agree”.
If you’ve talked about your travel, tell them to swipe right if they want to come along for the ride.
Wrapping Up
Before you drop a full paycheck on Tinder Vault in the hope of some more matches, why don’t you fix your Tinder bio first?
The Tinder bio don’ts are big mistakes to avoid, but you’ll be pleased to hear it’s always an easy fix. Need some extra inspiration? Check out my all-original funny Tinder bios.
If you’re revisiting your Tinder bio, why stop there? Maybe it’s time for a Tinder profile spring clean. My 6-Step Tinder Tune-Up is your completely free guide to a total Tinder do-over.
It takes you through everything from photos to bio to nailing that overall vibe that gets you the right matches – the ones that lead to great conversations and fun first dates.
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