OK, I’m not naive. I know that getting a conversation to flow on Tinder can be easier said than done. A lot of the time that’s because you’re overthinking, trying to write the perfect response or question, and end up being insincere.
There’s no one-size-fits-all of questions to ask on Tinder. In fact, there are times that no matter what you ask your match may not write back to you.
This is just a fact of online dating. What we can do though, is dramatically minimize your chances of this by learning what the experts do to keep their conversations going.
This simple trick I’m going to teach you is used by all the top salespeople around the world. It’s used to help build instant rapport with people.
It also ensures that they avoid any awkward silences to help keep the conversation going seamlessly. So, it definitely could be used in your Tinder chats or even whilst on your date.
Ask The Right Questions On Tinder To Keep The Conversation Going
Have you ever thought to yourself, “I don’t know what the hell to say or ask next”?
If the answer is yes, you are definitely not alone.
Figuring out what to say or ask can be a really difficult task.
If you are an over-thinker like I am, talking to all people can sometimes be difficult, not just women on Tinder.
There used to be times when I would be face to face with someone and literally be stumped on what to say next before my social anxiety would take over and I would come up with an excuse to leave.
Now, with this simple trick, I can keep a conversation flowing for ages.
Let me let you in on a little secret: people love to talk about themselves. When you are talking with someone new, and wanting to build rapport/ interest, it is your job to get that person to open up, so they want to tell their story.
F.O.R.M is an acronym created to help you shift your conversation from awkward and quiet to easy and engaged. Each letter represents a topic that you can easily ask your Tinder match about and is a neat little trick to help any conversation flow.
For Tinder, I would say use it more as a backup. Once again, our goal should be to have conversations that flow and are natural.
But everyone gets stuck from time to time. Keep this at the back of your mind for those awkward silences and you’ll be golden. Knowing that you have a whole repertoire of questions to ask on Tinder should really put you at ease.
F.O.R.M stands for:
F: Family/From O: Occupation R: Recreation M: Motivation
Questions To Ask On Tinder Using F.O.R.M
I would personally stick with ‘from’ to start off with, before moving into asking more personal questions about their family. Here are some example questions:
- Where are you from originally?
- How long have you been living in x?
- What part of the city is home for you?
- Where did you go to high school/college?
- What do you do for work?
- What do you do with yourself throughout the week?
- Do you enjoy doing that?
- Is that something you want to build a career in?
- What’s your dream job?
Yes, people like to talk about themselves, but not if it’s constantly about boring work! Here, you can really get to know your match, and hopefully, even find some things in common which will definitely help keep the conversation going.
- What kind of things do you do for fun?
- What’s the most exciting this that’s ever happened to you?
- What are some of your favorite places in the world?
- When you aren’t working (or studying) what do you like to do with your time?
- What kind of movies/music/sport/food do you like?
This is basically what makes them tick. Things that they hold important to them, how they view the world, and their own wants, fears and desires.
It sounds a little heavy for Tinder, I know. So I strongly suggest not pulling any of these out until things are flowing pretty well, if at all. You are asking for this person to open up or share personal information, so you want them to be comfortable.
Here are some examples:
- What is really important to you besides work?
- If you never had to work again, what would you do with your time?
- What is the happiest moment of your life?
Let me stress that you definitely don’t need to follow this. You don’t need to follow anything I do. It’s just nice to know it’s there for reference if times get rough.
So far I have given you a series of example questions and told you to listen, but we want this to be an engaging conversation, not an interrogation.
Take the time to share your viewpoint on things, and not just being the one shouting out the questions.
That’s why I suggest you read my article on using mystery to help keep the conversation going here.
If you want more matches to have great conversations with it all starts with a good bio, so go ahead and download my free list of 50 awesome bios for you to copy.