Okay, so you’ve done the hookups thing, and then just a bit of fun thing, and the friends with benefits thing, and you’re starting to think maybe it’s time for… gulp… a real relationship.
So, what do you do? How do people find these, so-called, ‘partners’ they seem to love so much? And can you just stay on Tinder but approach things differently? To put it simply, can Tinder relationships last?
Although Tinder is probably the dating app with the most defined ‘hookup app’ reputation, plenty of lasting relationships have started with a right swipe there too.
In fact, Tinder has been around long enough now that there are Tinder marriages and even Tinder babies happening regularly!
Admittedly, Tinder started off as the only location-based swiping app and as such, it used to be a one-stop shop for everything, from one-night hookups to serious relationships.
As the apps have multiplied, Tinder has drifted towards hookup app territory, but not everyone on Tinder is looking for something casual.
Besides, sometimes a hookup turns into more. The heart wants what the heart wants!
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What Is The Success Rate Of Tinder?
Sometimes, Tinder can feel frustrating. You’ve practically given yourself a carpal tunnel from swiping, and yet your love life is still a disaster.
Great. Thanks, IT revolution. Thanks, Steve Jobs. Smartphones and fast 4G haven’t improved things at all.
You’re still alone. And now you’re addicted to the tiny computer you carry around with you too. But have you ever stopped to think, what’s the success rate of Tinder? Is everyone striking out?
This is a hard question to answer. Firstly, Tinder doesn’t make much data about success rates public – we only know some swipe and match stats. Secondly, everyone will have a different rate of success. And thirdly, what counts as ‘success’? A match? A date? Sex? Marriage?
The closest we can get is a study from Queen Mary’s University, London. The study’s authors worked out that men have a 0.6% match rate, while women have a 10% match rate.
But before you worry about the difference in % there, women also swipe far more carefully. They’re swiping right on fewer people, so getting around the same number of matches as guys.
Basically, you don’t need to swipe wildly to get matches. And the more time you spend on Tinder, swiping right constantly, the less you’ll feel like you’re succeeding.
After a bit of daily Tinder use, the app offers diminishing returns. So why not put your tiny pocket computer down? Maybe go outside for a while?
What Is The Tinder Hookup Success Rate?
Even if you aren’t looking for anything serious, online dating can feel disheartening sometimes (see above for tips – go outside more being the main one).
Maybe you’ve been on a run of bad luck. Or maybe everyone is using another app now. Or… or maybe your profile sucks?
I mean, what is the Tinder hookup success rate anyway? Does anyone know?
Well, not really, no. It’s hard to estimate Tinder’s hookup success rate. The site has certainly led to plenty of hookups, but what are the variables?
And what counts as ‘success’, a single hookup, or the ability to repeatedly find hookups? If you want to know if a lot of people find hookups on Tinder, the answer is yes.
If you want to know whether you will be able to find a hookup on Tinder, well, the answer is probably also yes!
Finding hookups (or love) online isn’t all that different from finding them IRL. You can certainly find someone to date, or just to sleep with, on Tinder, but you’ll have to put in some work.
Take some good photos, work on your opener, don’t be a dick or a creep, and propose a date (at a specific time and place), quite early in the conversation if you’re getting along.
And there you go. You’ll probably meet someone from Tinder.
Not every date will lead to a hookup (and you should never assume that’s what’s going to happen), but getting a date is success in itself right?
Is Tinder Good For Long-Term Relationships?
Well, we’re back at the main question here, aren’t we? So, is Tinder good for long-term relationships?
We’ve come to the conclusion that Tinder relationships can last, but do they usually? Is Tinder the right place to look for a long-term relationship?
To be blunt, no. It’s not like you can’t find a long-term relationship on Tinder, but you would have higher odds of finding something real on another, more serious dating site.
You can take a small step into the serious zone by moving onto Hinge or Bumble, or really leap into the depths of the serious dating pool by hopping on a paywalled dating site.
If you’re going to pay to try to find a serious relationship (the best way to do it – given that everyone on the paid site you choose has proven a level of commitment to their search for romance) then you’d better pick the right dating site for you!
Overall, I think eharmony is the absolute best option for finding the one (more about eharmony here, if the mention of it has piqued your interest), but if you’re not quite ready for that level of commitment yet then you should take my quiz to work out the perfect site for you!
Because, yes, you can be looking for a relationship but not be on the hunt for marriage.
I promise, there is a middle ground.
