No, I’m not taking a left-field turn into the world of fantasy novels, although fantasy certainly does have something to do with today’s topic.
But we’re not talking about mythical beasts, or not literally anyway. We’re discussing something that’s seen as so rare, unusual, and borderline unreal in the dating world that it’s become known as “the unicorn”.
If you already know how Feeld works then you’ll be aware that it caters to a wide range of desires and interests.
You may not know, however, that this app started out with the name 3nder (pronounced “thrinder”). Until Tinder’s legal team took issue with that.
Two may be company, and three a crowd, but for many of Feeld’s early users they weren’t seeking a special someone, but a special threesome. Yep, before Feeld blew up in popularity for singles looking for intimacy and commitment, it was all about finding a third person for some bedroom fun.
That’s where unicorns come in. A unicorn is a person who is looking to join an established couple for a threesome. Originally, unicorns tended to refer to single women.
But why make it gendered? In Feeld’s world of gender and sexuality, anyone can be a unicorn. So let’s, maybe not dive in, but tentatively step into the world of unicorns on Feeld.
What Does “Seeking Unicorn” Mean on Feeld?
Feeld stands out from other dating apps because sexuality and desire are placed front and center. This encourages openness, authenticity, and communication – all good things in my opinion. But it also means you might see some confusing tags on other Feeld users’ profiles.
So what does “seeking unicorn” mean on Feeld? This means that the user is already part of an existing couple, and they’re looking for a third participant for some group fun.
Feeld allows users to pair their accounts with others to create “couples”, and if you adjust your search settings to include these users you’ll see Feeld users’ partners linked on their profile page.
Feeld also doesn’t mind people creating joint accounts, so sometimes you’ll encounter a single profile for two people. This is a bannable offense on Tinder (although sometimes you’ll see it there too) but on Feeld it’s perfectly acceptable, as long as it’s clear you’re matching with two people at once.
What is a Unicorn in Dating?
There are so many niche desires, kinks, and fantasies in Feeld profiles that a quick scan sometimes feels like reading a twisted, 21st-century dating version of Lewis Carroll’s Jabberwocky poem. “Beware the Jubjub bird, and shun the frumious Bandersnatch: Carroll’s nonsense words almost sound like online dating advice themselves!
Unicorns might be almost as mythical as Jubjubs and Bandersnatches, but they have real meaning in the world of online dating.
So what is a unicorn in dating? A unicorn is a single person looking for a couple to have a threesome with. Unicorns are typically thought of as bisexual women, as this is what couples are most frequently seeking, but anyone can be a unicorn if they’re interested in group fun.
Unicorns might join another (usually heterosexual) couple for fun in the bedroom, or form a triad relationship where intimacy and romance come into play. I don’t make the rules!
If you want to be a unicorn, you’ll need to include couples in your search preferences on Feeld. Here’s how to do it:
- Open up the Feeld app on your phone.
- Tap on your profile icon at the bottom right corner.
- Scroll down and tap “Search Settings”.
- Tap “Looking for”.
- Select as many options as you feel like, including couples.
- Tap the back arrow to save your settings.
Paying Feeld users, or Majestic Members as they are known, can also filter their Discover feed through the “Desire” tags. These include “couples” and a variety of other threesome-related tags, so it’s a good way to find exactly what you’re looking for.
Why do Couples Want a Unicorn?
Having a threesome is one of the most common sexual fantasies, but it’s also one of the most complicated ones. If you find one person enough of a handful in the bedroom, then you might wonder what the appeal is.
So why do couples want a unicorn? The fantasy of a threesome is highly popular, and an existing couple might want a third person to spice up their bedroom activity, or because they’re venturing into the world of polyamorous relationships.
While there are lots of reasons an existing couple might be interested in finding a unicorn, there are also plenty of things to consider before you introduce a new person to your after-hours antics.
A couple looking for a third person will have to be careful about how to ethically approach a unicorn. Feeld has put together a comprehensive guide on finding a unicorn, it’s worth a read if this is a fantasy for you and your partner.
And make sure you have a few serious conversations with your partner before you go ‘unicorn hunting’. Much like a long camping trip where you expect to commune with nature but find yourself cold, wet, and lost, the fantasy is often better than the reality.
So whether you’re looking to reintroduce the spark into the bedroom, or you’re single and ready to mingle yourself, Feeld is the place to do it.
The best thing about an app that’s this open-minded is that it brings out the best in people. Feeld users are very up-front about what they are looking for and it leads to interesting conversations and fun dates.
Online dating is hard enough when you’re looking for hookups, dates, or serious relationships. But if you’re literally searching for a mythical beast? Then you need an all-time profile to work its magic on the unicorns out there!
So check out my free 6-Step Tinder Tune-Up for a complete profile upgrade. It says Tinder in the title but it works perfectly for Feeld. Whatever mythical creatures you’re seeking, this will help you find them.