Compliments To Give On Tinder
Whether or not you should give compliments on Tinder is a big source of debate.
After all, the best Tinder conversation starters are flirty, creative, and personalized to your match. Does a compliment fit the bill?
So should you give compliments when opening a Tinder conversation? When done right, a complimentary opener can get an instant response. But stay away from complimenting your match’s physical features – pick up on their interests, career, or another offbeat detail that stands out in their profile.
The right kind of compliments can work and Tinder themselves even suggest complimenting a new match.
But that doesn’t mean it’s free for all. There’s a pretty big difference between saying “You’re so well traveled, I’m impressed! What was your favorite thing about Thailand? ” and “Hey girl, your feet look good enough to eat”.
So read on to find out if you should compliment a girl on the first Tinder message because I’m here to tell you what compliments you should and definitely SHOULDN’T give. And I’ll throw in some tips to start a conversation along the way.
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What Tinder Compliments Should You Avoid?
When guys make the first move they often try to suck up to their matches. But does telling your match how attractive she is make you stand out? No.
So what Tinder compliments should you avoid? It’s simple really. Any compliment made about her APPEARANCE is a no-no. Under no circumstances tell her she’s hot, has beautiful eyes, or a great smile.
There is staggering evidence that backs up this claim, no matter how tame the compliment.
You have both already swiped right on each other, implying you are attracted to each other, so why feel the need to tell her? This is your chance to get to know her beyond her looks.
If you need any more reason than that, recent studies concluded that some of the WORST 5 words at getting a response were:
But what jumps out about the others, is that women must get these “tame compliments” a lot. They’re more like LAME compliments which are guaranteed to make her cringe.
So even if you think you will sound super sweet complimenting her pretty eyes or nice smile, she’s heard it before… It shouldn’t be the first thing you tell her.
On top of that, physical compliments could set off the biggest alarm sirens of all: that you’re just keen on getting laid. That’s a terrible first impression. Show her that you are interested in something other than her body.
When And How Should You Compliment A Match’s Looks On Tinder?
In fairness, one piece of advice I give my readers is to sensualize their conversations with women on Tinder. You might wonder if a compliment can do that.
So if you’re wondering when and how should you compliment a match’s looks on Tinder, the answer is late on and tactfully if at all. If it comes up organically, go for it – or wait until an actual date to tell her she looks good.
Unless you have an obvious opportunity – such as if she compliments your looks first, or if you’re talking about a change of hairstyle – then I don’t recommend you talk about her physical features at all.
Most actual women can see through an insincere Tinder compliment, and nobody wants to be objectified right off the bat.
Don’t tell your Tinder matches that you’re attracted to them. Show them you are with flirty banter and dropping hints about meeting in person.
How To Compliment A Girl On Tinder
Don’t sweat it, dude, you CAN compliment your match but the secret is… Just not about her appearance!
The same study mentioned above also concluded that words used in the opener that got GREAT response rates were:
So should you start with a compliment on Tinder? Complimenting things other than just your match’s physical features is a big YES.
And if you are still unsure of the way to go about it, check out this video I made on the subject:
The key to knowing how to talk to girls on Tinder is this: The best compliments should surprise your match and show her that you’ve spotted – and appreciated – something that other guys have missed.
I’ve seen it claimed that 90% of compliments get a response on Tinder. They don’t. Debunked!
There are plenty of dos and don’ts for starting a conversation on Tinder and Creepy compliments are a definite don’t. Personalizing your opener is a must and find some common ground in her Tinder profile to make an instant connection.
If you are interested in learning about how to become a hell of a lot more successful on Tinder, you have to check out my 6-Step Tinder Tune-Up.
It gives you a complete profile overhaul, from pictures to bio and the all-important vibe check. Who knows, maybe it’ll be you getting the Tinder compliment openers after that?