There are a whole bunch of reasons you might want to stop certain people seeing you on a dating app. Some are silly – say, you don’t want the friends you play touch football with on a Tuesday evening to see how many pictures of you and your pet kitten are included in your profile.
Or that you’re ‘Just a big softy tbh, looking for a little spoon and a partner in crime’. Some are nefarious – like, you’re on the dating apps and you don’t want your wife to know (I can’t make that one funny. Don’t do it).
And others are varying degrees of practical, whether you don’t want any interactions with an ex, have had a date or a pre-date chat go horribly wrong, and need to back out of all interactions ASAP or find someone genuinely creepy and troubling and don’t want to interact with them anymore.
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You would expect controlling who sees your profile would be easy on Bumble, a dating site that claims to care deeply about user safety and online bullying and harassment issues. Unfortunately, the mechanisms for stopping a user from seeing your profile are no more advanced on Bumble than on any other popular dating app.
To be fair, I’m not sure what exactly I would want instead. I mean, for one thing there is no real search option on most apps so to isolate a user and block only them from viewing your profile you usually have to engage in some interaction with them first.
It all seems very complicated and difficult to engineer, so no hard feelings to the app built by women and for everyone for not coming up with the perfect solution!
On Bumble, you have a few options when it comes to stopping someone’s access to your profile. You can block a specific user to stop them seeing you. If they were behaving inappropriately, you can also report them.
A third option is unmatching, which simply severs contact, though your profile may eventually pop up in their feed again and vice versa.
Obviously, if you just don’t like someone’s chat or you went on a date and they turned out to drink only room temperature milk and talk only about astronomy (yeah, I mean astronomy, not astrology. I’m probably not referencing a real date I went on… in fact, for legal reasons, let’s say I am definitely not. This did not happen. I was never forced into a forty-minute conversation about the classification of Pluto on a first date.) then don’t block and report!
Be a grownup and say ‘I don’t really think there’s a spark between us’, and just unmatch. And if you want more general advice on how to control who sees your profile on Bumble, I have an article on that here.
Blocking On Bumble
To block without reporting on Bumble, a site that takes any red flags against a user pretty seriously, you still have to click on ‘Block and Report’ on that user’s profile.
You’ll be prompted to tell Bumble why you’re blocking and reporting, with a message that starts ‘Everything Okay?’ because, you know, apps really care about you!
All of the options here but one will lead to what is essentially points on the Bumble license of the user you’re blocking. If you don’t want the user penalized, you have to choose ‘I’m Just Not Interested’.
There used to be an ‘I don’t want them to see me’ option, but that has disappeared in recent months. I will be keeping an eye out for its return, as it was a little clearer than the current not interesting option.
This is a great option if someone is just plain annoying but essentially harmless, or if you’ve had an awkward encounter and want to nope out of the situation without it being obvious that you’ve done so. It will just look to them as though you deleted your Bumble account.
Reporting On Bumble
On Bumble, the reasons for blocking someone that are presented in the ‘Everything Okay?’ dialogue box when you click through to Block and Report a user apart from ‘I’m Just Not Interested’ will also report them.
That means that Bumble customer service will be notified of their behavior, and if the user is blocked multiple times/by multiple users for similar actions they will be investigated and could be kicked off the app or blocked by Bumble.
So, I know it might be tempting to report the ex who cheated on you with a guy from work, but it’s probably not a good idea to abuse a system that’s in place to keep people safe. Also, there’s no option for, ‘her selfish lust for newness broke my heart.
And they did it in the stationary closet – can you imagine a worse cliché?.
Unmatching On Bumble
Finally, you can always unmatch a user on Bumble. This will remove their access to your profile, and delete your conversation with them from their inbox. You might eventually pop up in their feed again, but unless you also swipe right on them you obviously won’t match and therefore they won’t actually be able to make contact.